The Judgment, The Root, The Release
A first look at The Things I Judge, a new journal taking shape: the three ideas it is built on, and why a judgment is rarely about the person it lands on.
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26 September 2026
Why do I judge people faster than I understand them?
The verdict arrives in a second. Understanding, if it comes at all, takes much longer.
What is usually going on
A judgment is quick because it is doing a job. It is rarely about the person it lands on. More often it is protecting something of your own: a fear, a need, a value or a belief.
Tracing a judgment back to what it protects does not mean the judgment was wrong, or that you should approve of what you judged. It means you can see what the verdict was for.
The same applies inwards. Many people reserve their sharpest judgments for themselves, and those follow the same shape: a fast verdict, protecting something, rarely examined.
Three small things to try this week
- Write one judgment in a single plain line, exactly as it arrived.
- Ask what it protects: a fear, a need, a value or a belief.
- Notice whether you would say the same thing to the person, and whether you say it to yourself.
Where to go next
Where this leads
The Things I Judge
An eight-week guided journal for tracing a judgment back to what it is actually protecting.
On the Journals page this sits under “I am harder on people, and on myself, than I want to be.”
Not quite this one? Two other places to begin:
- The Things I Don’t Say — An eight-week guided journal for hearing what you have been holding inside, three lines at a time.
- The Mindful Pattern — A 90-day guided journal to map your thoughts and see the patterns that run you on autopilot.
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Questions people ask
Does this mean I should stop judging?
No. Judgment is a normal part of thinking. The practice is about seeing what a judgment is protecting, so that it informs you rather than steering you.
Do I need to write about real people?
You never need to use names. A nickname, a role or a general shape is enough.
Is this a substitute for therapy?
No. It is a reflective practice. If something heavier comes up, a qualified professional or someone you trust is a better place for it.
A journal is a quiet space for reflection, not a substitute for professional medical, psychological or therapeutic advice. If anything here brings up more than you expected, please pause and speak to a qualified professional or someone you trust.